Some reasons cause to divorce that need to avoid!!!

DEALING WITH DIVORCE

                    There are so many reasons that lead to divorced which happened since many years ago. When couples feel like they have given their relationship all they have, they can ultimately conclude that it’s time to end their marriage, so they must to figure out: “why is it happen?”. In the family life there are many difficulties, collisions and clashes, if people do not know how to maintain and refresh, the happiness will faint, leading to the divorce. Here are some of the main causes of divorce and family breakdowns; such as, communication, family or finance, sex, and infidelity or cheat.
                  According to the research survey chart, the reason for divorce based on per 1,000 married women  was in 1965 to 2009 below. There are 44 years past as people can see how many cases of US divorces had been fluctuated. It is almost impossible to define the exact family problems or issues that lead to divorce. According to the same chart demonstrates that in 1965, it has about 10.6 of percentage of US divorces through in 2009, there are going up to 16.4 of percentages. This chart showed the changes from the highest one that was 22.6 percent in 1980, and then it kept decreasing after that year.

 

             (http://www.womansdivorce.com/reasons-for-divorce.html)  

 

                  The married life is filled with countless difficulties and challenges. If the husband and wife want to keep family happiness, they must always cherish and try to cultivate together. First is a communication, some couples find it difficult to agree on everything in life, of course, everyone has their own secret but the two of the people have been living together for a long time, no matter how well they cover up, one day, the other half finds out, things get worse and the argument is inevitable. Therefore, the reality is that couple need to spend time on their marriage. They should work harder,and they must be honest or be patient to each other than their action was before. They should not hold too many issues or secrets by their own that they should speak them out to their spouse.

             Second major is always cared about is financial because it is a critical issue which is always put on the top to place for each family. Life is hard, so when they have a money shortage which is the cause of the breakdown of many families, even though, there is a strong love that cannot resist. The worries of money which makes people easily annoyed, and irritated, and then lead to the aggressive fight. So, before the couple of them go to court for marriage, they should go to a psychologist or sociologist to guide your family budget planning.

              The third, that is sex or gender also most considered because husband or wife for some reason related to next generations, stressed from their parents or they just want a sexual content. In addition to love, attention, and care, that sex is as a bond that tie the relationship of the couple together. However, many people are too busy making money, love work but neglecting the partner makes the distance between two people far and away.

               The fourth reason is infidelity or cheat. This is one of the most difficult forgiveness mistakes in conjugal life. Even then, one of them repent, or regret, spouse will not forgive that because of the great hurt other cause. Conversely, if the other half agrees to let go, no one can be sure they will forget the old, even, they repeat what previous other did.

              On this page, people will find resources that will help them understand and deal with their family issues that often lead to divorce.  By the way, in order to resolve the issue, people should first address from the roots cause. There are many causes for marriage breakdown, in each family and for each couple, and the causes are different. Whatever the cause, each of person should consider and think carefully to decide. Another solution is better communication, which is one of the results from receiving a consultant, or a psychiatrist who may be unprofessional to share, improves, and support them at such times as well, whenever they really feel their relationship is having a problem and need to resolve. As above chart showed, people will be seen and known that is the number of divorce less than several years ago before because they keep the eyes into their marriage and keep the emotional connection between them strong.

Mia Truong.